I admire lesbian women. I see them as having a massive kind of freedom that’s been lacking in my life due to certain roles I’ve been locked into since birth. They seem to have the boldness of men without female restrictions.
I admire gay men. Their strength as men, combined with their lack of masculine restrictions, can result in amazing creativity. I’m lucky to have as a friend the immensely creative D. Gerard Lancaster–painter, photographer, composer and fiction writer. (I keep telling him he should go into illustration, but will he listen? No!)
Of course, my view is romanticized. Lesbians and gays have their own lock-ins and lock-downs. But from the outside I admire the the lack of boundaries imposed by a mainstream culture.
What I admire most is the individual, sometimes called the smallest minority. That means each of you: whatever there is of you that’s you alone, separate from society. I admire the ability to see and act independently and without artificial restrictions.
Maybe I don’t admire lesbians and gays. Maybe I’m jealous. They’re independent of mainstream culture to a certain point, but participate in a smaller culture in which they can find people who may be more like themselves.
On second thought, I don’t have to be jealous since my husband and I make up a little mini-culture. Together we’re a micro-minority all our own.
These are the thoughts I’ve been trying to put into words ever since I was awarded two blogging awards last week. (So I guess I’m part of the blogging mini-society, too.)
Thanks for thinking of me. For different reasons, neither of you has to worry about being swallowed up in the mainstream culture. Stay strong!
Each award must be passed on. I pass the Liebster Blog Award on to Kate Spencer, Pat O’Dea Rosen, Asrai Devin, BJ Bangs and Louise Behiel. The Versatile Blogger goes to Mark Lieberman, Soapmarked, Kristy K. James, Jane Myers Perrine and Jean.
As for the facts about myself I should disclose as a requirement for accepting the awards–see above.
By S.J. Driscoll